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Being Invisible

Discussion in 'The Grumble' started by Petengeth, Sep 8, 2009.

  1. Petengeth

    Petengeth True Grumbler

    For some time I have suspected I might be invisible. When I am out people walk into me as if I am not there. It was suggested my coat might be invisible so I took it off, but people, in particular people with prams and children still walk right into me.

    So I joined this forum, and then I realised I was invisible. In a room full of people talking over me, and to each other, and past me.

    It's the nature of a forum I suppose. There you are with a group of friends in your own space and a stranger turns up not realising it is a private room. There are various ways to handle this, but the best one is to ignore them until they go away.
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  2. Merlin Framers

    Merlin Framers CGF II, Certified Grumble Framer Level 2

    Come and join us on the UK FF.
    You can be invisible there as well.
  3. Petengeth

    Petengeth True Grumbler

    Have only looked through the window so far. Nobody noticed.
  4. imaluma

    imaluma SGF, Supreme Grumble Framer

    Everyone plays the role of the threadkiller once in a while. I find that often when I post to a thread it immediately dies or my post just doesn't get factored into the flow of banter. It happens. Don't take it personally.
  5. D_Derbonne

    D_Derbonne PFG, Picture Framing God

    Invisibility can be a good thing.
  6. Framar

    Framar SPFG, Supreme Picture Framing God

    Petengeth - being invisible is a piece of cake when you have 28 posts in 2 years. Look at Shayla, Roboframer, Baer Charlton - these are folk who jumped in with both feet screaming "I am here - Look at me - Respond to me!"

    Fill in your profile a little bit more, post in Warped, tell us a bad joke. Little by little and before you know it you too can be a Grumblezombie and do not say I did not warn you! ;)
  7. framah

    framah PFG, Picture Framing God

    Who are you talking to, Mar??:confused:
  8. Candy

    Candy SGF, Supreme Grumble Framer

    So that is my problem!!! :D :D :D

    Now, I just hope I don't kill this thread.
  9. Bill Henry-

    Bill Henry- SPFG, Supreme Picture Framing God

    I think one of the problems, Petengeth, is that you're from England. Some of us have trouble understanding your accent. :)

    Stick around. Eventually you'll get used to the Mangleish we speak 'round here.
  10. blackiris

    blackiris SPFG, Supreme Picture Framing God

    WHATEVER Candy!! I know who you are!!! ;)

    BTW Pentengeth...........you should post some really bad jokes....LOL...you might be teased about it FOREVER......but then that way we can Identify with who you are......LOL :D
    Good to have you here!! ;)
  11. Candy

    Candy SGF, Supreme Grumble Framer

  12. prospero

    prospero SPFG, Supreme Picture Framing God

    Don't go away Petengeth. Come in, sit down and take your shoes off.
    Before long you will be a mad as everybody else.:popc:
  13. Jim Miller

    Jim Miller SPFG, Supreme Picture Framing God

    If you feel invisible after only 20-some posts, wait until you have posted several thousand, as some of us have, and still feel invisible.

    Invisiblity takes some getting used to, but I'm sure you can deal with it.
  14. evartpat

    evartpat PFG, Picture Framing God


    Perhaps you are too polite...hence your lack of visibility...;)

    (Hey where did you disappear to?? :confused:)
  15. Petengeth

    Petengeth True Grumbler

    I will shout louder from now on. It was 28 posts in 4 weeks though, don't know where the 2 years went. They just flew by.
  16. DB

    DB SGF, Supreme Grumble Framer

    As others have stated, Petengeth, post a bit more, especially on warped, but I caution you....

    Be careful what you wish for!!
  17. shayla

    shayla WOW Framer

    I answered your posts, Petengeth. So does the fact that
    you felt ignored mean that I'm invisible to you? :)

    Just teasing. It takes a bit for people here to get to know
    you, so take heart and keep on posting. What that reflects
    is that the people here don't just think of this as an anonymous
    forum, but rather a real group of folks who know each other.
    That's much better than the former, and once you've spent
    a bit longer here, people will feel like they know you. I hope
    that you stick around, as there's always room for another good
  18. framah

    framah PFG, Picture Framing God

    Man... what a pain in the butt that Petengeth is!!! Always whining and complaining about something!!

    There, is that better??:shutup:
  19. JbNormandog

    JbNormandog SGF, Supreme Grumble Framer

    Can I borrow the invisible coat?

    Have a few things to take care of and a coat like that could really help.

  20. Uncle Eli

    Uncle Eli MGF, Master Grumble Framer

    Here ya go Jim, thought you could use this
  21. prospero

    prospero SPFG, Supreme Picture Framing God

    Reservoir Dogs.

    Oops sorry. Wrong topic.:p

    "Doctor, Doctor. I keep thinking that people are ignoring me"


    TPBM thinks this thread will be moved to Warped very shortly......:icon11:
  22. blackiris

    blackiris SPFG, Supreme Picture Framing God

    Im AFTER BOB!!!!!!!! Theres SOOOOOO many things I have in mind!!!! ;)
  23. RParrish

    RParrish PFG, Picture Framing God

    Nah your just over 40 I bet....
  24. Baer Charlton

    Baer Charlton SPFG, Supreme Picture Framing God

    Assumption I can make with safety:

    1) You are not built like Shaq O'Neil or dress like Elton John.

    2) Your favorite music is not Aretha Franklin, Dr Dre, Killas 4 Klevland played at 94db in your lowered Leland with the windows down and the 1,000 watt pulsing through the quad base unit in the trunk that makes the bump separate the street from the treads.

    3) You shop decor is not Passion Pink, Safety Orange, Jihad Purple, with overtones of Armageddon Grey.

    4) You don't pack your lunch bucket, newspaper, and AK-47 and climb aboard the Metro like Jerry and his little friend.

    5) You might have raised your hand in class a total of 12 times in your years at second form.

    So, suggestions:

    1) Raise your hand. Yes, we'll shoot it off... but if it's on Warped; it will be with humor..... and because you can't vote here in the US.. with semi-kindness...... like your older brother would.

    2) Keep posting..... even if you are a bite-in-the-arse older brother . . we all have something to say and offer.

    3) Get thee to Warped. . . . with the rest of us down trodden smashed into the plaster wall flowers.

    4) Go find a VERY large breasted manikin.. dress her like a $5 tart, stick a frame in her hand and stand her outside your front door. Once you get used to the comments and answering the questions.... take her to work.

    ****now I know it's time for this thread to head for Warped. :D ****
  25. Beveled

    Beveled SGF, Supreme Grumble Framer

    Welcome to the madness! Sometimes being invisible is preferable to being pounced on. That happens around here too. But you develop a thick skin and take the best parts out of this place.

    Let us get to know you, and your colors will show!
  26. PaulSF

    PaulSF PFG, Picture Framing God

    I've discovered something about the phenomenon of people walking right at you as if you are invisible. If you look directly at the people walking towards you on the street, they will walk right into you. However, if you tilt your head up and to the side and look over their shoulder, as if THEY are invisible, they will make way for you.

    Try it sometime.

    P.S. As for parents pushing strollers, that's an entirely different phenomenon. I just stop right where I am, and force them to push that stroller around me. I usually mutter something to the effect of "that's your child, not a battering ram."
  27. imaluma

    imaluma SGF, Supreme Grumble Framer

    Clearly you have never tried steering an unweildy double stroller weighing upwards of 150 pounds fully loaded with one hand uphill on a craggy brick walkway while trying not to smash the tomatoes and peaches in your bag of fresh veggies from the farmer's market. I guess inconsiderate people like this should stay at home and stare at the walls instead of trying to participate in that thing called the WORLD and LIFE like all the able bodied folks who could easily step to the side for a moment. Sorry Paul, I really like you, but I hope you realise how unsympathetic that comment was.

    Off to rejoin the invisible ranks.
  28. RoboFramer

    RoboFramer PFG, Picture Framing God

    Maybe you're a museum Grumbler!

    Now get in to your profile page - upload some albums and make it all pretty.

    I've started your page off with a visitor mesage and a friendship request. (Haven't got a fiver 'til payday have you)?
  29. Baer Charlton

    Baer Charlton SPFG, Supreme Picture Framing God

    Having spent the better part of a year getting my knee rebuilt from an assault by a propagation project gone rampant, while the responsible (?) party totally ignoring me writhing in pain but telling her git that 'if you're going to play on the HD carts, you have to be careful'. . . as the overhead safety warning about "playing on the carts" played unheeded.
    Having been bashed by several of those SUVs disguised as an excuse for a pram when the kid should be either shouldered or be learning to walk instead of congesting the limited space allowed for Farmer's Markets, Street Faires, Art on the Walk etc.

    I hope you realise how unsympathetic that comment was.

    Many of us who attend farmer's markets that understand that we are going to be purchasing . . . take a bag with handles that can be slung over a handlebar on bicycle or push cart, or a day pack for a heavier load that would free up both hands to drive with.......
    or one to push and the other to hold the latte and cell phone.

    Consideration is a two way street. :icon9:

    I also don't believe in taking our dog to the market either.
  30. JbNormandog

    JbNormandog SGF, Supreme Grumble Framer

    Not to mention most aisles are a bit narrow and someone always leaves their cart in the middle of the aisle while juggling 20 different things.

    I have my kids trained to scream bloody murder when I ram into somone.

  31. prospero

    prospero SPFG, Supreme Picture Framing God

    I am enormously confused. :confused:
  32. JbNormandog

    JbNormandog SGF, Supreme Grumble Framer

    A couple people without kids are criticizing people that have to struggle with handling multiple small children in a stroller unfriendly world.

  33. RoboFramer

    RoboFramer PFG, Picture Framing God

    Just make it Petengeth-relative, OK!

    So - Petengeth - are you a 'standing my ground; move your turbo-assisted brat carrier around me' or a 'Hey - I'd move around you without that, so what the hec, I still will with it' type of guy?

    Personally I think kids should be transported in these things until they come of age.
  34. JbNormandog

    JbNormandog SGF, Supreme Grumble Framer


    Just kidding.
  35. PaulSF

    PaulSF PFG, Picture Framing God

    Since when was a level sidewalk "stroller-unfriendly?" I'm not talking about pushing a stroller around a supermarket, or a crowded street fair, or up a steep hill. I'm talking about a parent blithely aiming that stroller right at my shins on a relatively uncrowded and level sidewalk, and it happens all the time. They aren't overburdened by packages, they are overburdened by not paying attention.
  36. imaluma

    imaluma SGF, Supreme Grumble Framer


    But in my defense I have tried several methods for visiting the market and try very hard to opt for the one which would be the least disturbing for other patrons. Both my kids can walk, but it is difficult to keep both right next to me at all times, I worry they will run off knocking into others which would be troublesome, or heaven forbid one should get lost. The stroller seems like the only option at times. And for the record I do not let my kids play on shopping carts or run in stores. I am sorry a few lazy and unattentive parents give all children a bad rep. I try my best to be a good parent, which includes a healthy diet that includes farm fresh fruits and veggies, as opposed to the imported, pesticide laden, week old, nutrition deprived variety available at the neon lit chain stores.
  37. JbNormandog

    JbNormandog SGF, Supreme Grumble Framer

    Paul next time you walk down the side walk move your arms like your avatar does and you will have the entire side of the street to yourself.

  38. prospero

    prospero SPFG, Supreme Picture Framing God

    Yeah I got that. What I am confused about is how the thread morphed that direction. :icon11:
  39. RoboFramer

    RoboFramer PFG, Picture Framing God

    I think it was deliberate -

  40. imaluma

    imaluma SGF, Supreme Grumble Framer

    Sorry, Paul. The way you described it earlier sounded more like purposely obstructing strollers just to be mean.

    I guess I snapped because I have been on the receiving end of people doing just that, and on the receiving end of nasty SUV stroller driving parents cutting me off while I politely wait my turn to make through a crowd.

    I guess I am all hopped up on the subject because I am feeling especially invisible lately myself.

    But on the subject of the OP, sure we all have invisible moments, some inexcusable. But online like this it is easier to get missed among pages of print than IRL.

    Try getting offended and running your mouth like I just did and I am sure you will get noticed.
  41. prospero

    prospero SPFG, Supreme Picture Framing God

    Right. I took it to be allegorical. :icon11:

    Anyway, modern kiddie conveyancers are all plastic and quite soft. What happened to the good old sturdy prams with huge wheels. You could have someones' leg off with one of those. :help:
  42. Artrageous

    Artrageous PFG, Picture Framing God

    They sure don't make them like they used to... [​IMG]
  43. framerbob

    framerbob CGF II, Certified Grumble Framer Level 2

    Reminds me of the guy who went to see his doctor about his inferiority complex. The doctor looked him over and said, “ You don’t have a complex, you actually are inferior.”
  44. imaluma

    imaluma SGF, Supreme Grumble Framer

  45. prospero

    prospero SPFG, Supreme Picture Framing God


    He asked for a second opinion and the Doc said, "Alright. You're an ugly bastard as well".
  46. Doug Gemmell

    Doug Gemmell SGF, Supreme Grumble Framer

    The ultimate solution. Of course without the muzzle option, your shins will still be subject to bites.

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  47. Baer Charlton

    Baer Charlton SPFG, Supreme Picture Framing God

    Dang it Doug, you beet me to it you veggietable persona you.

    I guess I should have started my rant with:

    "Having been the youngest of four children who never saw the inside of a pram...... but survived years of being "on-leash"......" I think mom finally got rid of the leashes when I finally went to first grade.

    The growing up bound in thick leather has left me scarred for a lifetime of theropy that only Hanna can relate to.......

    And you all thought it was fabric that I was in to...... well, ..... that too. :D

    psst.... do you think that invisible guy is still here??
  48. nikfrz

    nikfrz SGF, Supreme Grumble Framer

    Better be. He/she doesnt know what they're missing.

    My mother used to tie my brother and I to the bottom of the outside steps while she did yard work. We were close to the street. We had a little roaming room, but not much. If she were to do that today, she would be arrested.
  49. Framar

    Framar SPFG, Supreme Picture Framing God

    My mother made a harness for me after she lost me in a huge department store when I was really little. Makes sense to me!
  50. imaluma

    imaluma SGF, Supreme Grumble Framer

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